Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda....

Hey everyone!!  I have been taking a moment to peek at the blog posts and respond when I can because I have been so busy with finals this semester.  As I peeked, I noticed a recurring theme.  A theme that, I, too, have been entertaining on so many levels so I decided I get to nip this in the bud...TODAY and move forward.  It seems like they need a 12 Step Program for New Home Construction Builders because I realize I have agonized and gave importance to a few things and cried over other things and jumped for joyed for a lot of things.  Honestly, I guess this blog is that program because it gave us all the opportunity to share our ups and downs with so many people that we may never meet in person but have had the opportunity to connect with in this forum.  Hopefully, some of us will stay connected and not disappear as I have seen so many others do.  

Anyway, the intention of this blog is for everyone to take the opportunity to 

RELEASE AND LET GO 

of what they shoulda, coulda, woulda have done had they known while building their new dream homes plus an opportunity to express an attitude of gratitude for the things they did get.  I thought this would be awesome because it could heal so many at one time and also support those people who will be building afterwards and use this post as a learning forum.  Simply just respond in the comment section with your list.

So here is my list:

 I should have made sure I understood the dynamics of picking the exterior colors of our home instead of being concerned that the meeting was becoming lengthy. 

I wish I could have picked the colors I really wanted in that meeting instead of regretting the colors that I have that I can't do anything about at this time.

I wish I would have stopped our SR and made sure I knew all the options for picking the exterior colors of our home based on the options I had with black shutters/doors because only I knew of one at the time that she pointed out but there were so many others.

I wish I could have picked the Stone Mountain Clay siding at that initial meeting for our siding color but when I found out the scheme wasn't what I wanted it was too late because you can't pick the color of the home to the left or right or across the street from your home.

I wish I could have submitted the metal ballisters as a non standard request but did not know I could have done so when we sat at the table the first day or any day after before the deadline.

I wish I could have submitted the 15 lite panel doors as a non standard request because I have learned they hang differently from the standard doors and now I must order the doors later but my new home will be altered because of it.

I wish I would have not listened to our SR when she said, just get the doors from Lowes instead of from us.  Big mistake!

I wish I would have submitted the non standard request to have the brick continue around the entire garage instead of listening to our SR and DH say don't worry about it.  Ugghh

Here is my what I am grateful for:

I am grateful to God for making this dream a reality.

I am grateful for building this new home that my husband and I get to move into as our "forever home" as empty nesters.

I am grateful for the support of Ryan Homes and their flexibility to do whatever it took to approve our loan to build this home.

I am grateful for building this new foundation with my husband of 13 years come February 28, 2013.

I am grateful for the perfect model and floor plan called the Rome to meet our needs and function according to our lifestyle.

I am grateful for so much livable square footage that the Rome offers and the lower price it cost us.

I am grateful for an excellent interest rate.

I am grateful that we survived the 6 month underwriting process. Wheww...that was rough!

I am grateful that I learned the true virtue of patience.

I am grateful for all the non standard requests that were approved for our home.

I am grateful to have a wonderful RH building team at Fairwood.

I am grateful that I was able to use my interior design vision to implement into the structure of the home.

I am grateful for our soon-to-be new neighbors we met and the opportunity to  to fellowship together once we move into the community.

I am grateful for having the opportunity to take advantage of the "Home of the Month" special for the lot and model we had chosen which gave us a total of 65K work of incentives.  

I am grateful that LOT#28  and the Rome model we had chosen were still available and came with these huge incentives when we  finally qualified in January which was the Home of the Month special.  Our timing was impeccable!! God is good!!

I am grateful for being able to drive by often to check on the status of our home on a daily basis because it's only 5 minutes away.

I am totally grateful for this blog because it was through this blog that I learned so much about the home building process.

I am grateful for the wonderful people I have met on this blog and the opportunity to share what I have learned and for others to share what they have learned--priceless!!!

I am grateful for God's provision for us to build our new home.

I am grateful for to put the things we did get can be implemented after settlement without no one telling us what we cannot do.  

I am grateful for having an attitude of gratitude for all the wonderful things we have in this new home to share with my DH, family and friends.

 I am grateful to have a new home to move into on January 11 with all the beautiful options/upgrades/non standard requests that we picked and to have the perfect floor plan called the Rome!

Lastly, I am grateful, in advance, for our settlement moving easily and effortlessly!!